Book examines science of a brain in love
February 22, 2010 - 5:00 am
How would relationships change if we could take a peek into the brains of those we are interested? If we could see how love affects someone’s brain, would it influence our feelings for that person?
In his fascinating book, “This Is Your Brain In Love,” Dr. Earl Henslin explains in easy-to-understand language exactly how the human brain is responsible for the feelings and sensations we experience as love. Incorporating the latest in scientific research as well as stories of real couples, Henslin shows how the brain affects people’s love lives, and how to use the information he has garnered to enhance that love to newer, higher levels.
Henslin identifies what he has found to be five different “brain” types of lovers:
The Scattered Lover — hyperactive and distracted.
The Over-Focused Lover — controlling and always right.
The Blue Mood Lover — all gloom and doom and depressed.
The Agitated Lover — angry and aggressive.
The Anxious Lover — always worried something or someone will hurt them.
Using the Brain Subsystems checklist developed by pioneer brain-scan researcher Dr. Daniel G. Amen, and subsequent shorter tests geared for each type of personality, readers are able to determine which type of lover they and their partners are, and how they can become more compatible and find a happier, more joyful relationship.
At the end of each chapter, Henslin offers tips for both partners on how they can adapt and adjust to their “brain-type,” suggests supplements that aid in regulating the brain’s function, and also medications that might be helpful.
Henslin uses scientific information but points out that a spiritual connection is also necessary for a happy, healthy relationship, especially in a sexual sense.
“It is so marvelous to realize how wise and creative God was when he thought up the concept of sex as a way to regularly bring couples back to one another,” Henslin says in his chapter “Sexuality and Spirituality: Divine Balm to Your Soul and Brain.”
“This is Your Brain In Love” is, in my opinion, probably one of the most important books on relationships that a couple could have. With advice on how to be kind to one another, how to forgive, how to have patience, and most importantly, how to keep the love fires kindled, this is a complete manual to having a successful, passionate, healthy marriage.