Las Vegas man builds friendship with bone marrow donor in Poland

Four months ago, Ron Gross met Karolina Wierciak, the woman who saved his life in 2014. He lives in Las Vegas, she in Poland.

Their story is a testament to the awesome power unleashed by combining of the wonders of modern medicine with the passionate resources of the heart.

“After cousin died of cancer, I got down on knees and prayed for way to help somebody, to help save life,” Wierciak said in broken English from her home in Szczecin, Poland.

Six years years ago, Gross, then a computer instructor who also did security at the Rio, had no clue he’d need a bone marrow stem-cell transplant from a woman nearly 6,000 miles away to stay alive.

“I definitely didn’t think I had something that could kill me,” Gross, now 66 and retired, said recently.

He did have a painful problem at the time, but not a life-threatening one — a sore neck, the result of some discs out of whack. Fusion surgery was planned.

The bad news

Gross then had the routine blood test patients take in the days before a hospital procedure.

It turned out he had a blood disorder, myelodysplastic syndrome, or MDS, a condition that made national headlines in 2012 when ABC “Good Morning America” anchor Robin Roberts revealed she had the disease.

“I couldn’t believe it at that point,” Gross said. “I didn’t feel bad, not overly tired or anything.”

Doctors told him they’d try to manage his MDS, frequently referred to as preleukemia, through transfusions and chemotherapy. His treatments were carried out at Sunrise Hospital.

By 2013, however, he was becoming weaker and weaker and physicians said a bone marrow transplant, which saved Roberts’ life, was his only chance. He began treatment at Stanford Hospital in California, where such a transplant could be done.

Members of his family were tested, but no one had the correct blood properties for a transplant.

What Gross didn’t know at the time is that Wierciak was making what amounted to a life and death decision for him.

After her beloved cousin passed away from cancer, she decided one way she could honor his memory was to try to save someone’s life by registering as a bone marrow donor. Because Poland didn’t participate in the worldwide Be The Match Registry, she drove 200 miles to Germany in October 2013 to get her blood drawn and tested for the registry.

“I feel inside my heart this is my obligation,” the 37-year-old clothing designer said.

In early December 2013, doctors told Gross he probably couldn’t get a transplant in time to save his life. It was time, they said, to get his affairs in order.

The amazing news

Then he would get the best Christmas present of his life.

On Christmas Eve, he received a phone call at his Las Vegas home from Stanford. A match had been found.

Gross returned to Stanford where they prepared him for a transplant in February.

In the days before the Feb. 12 procedure, Wierciak once again drove to a German hospital, where doctors withdrew liquid marrow from the back of her pelvic bone and then shipped it to California.

“I’m happy to get ready to help somebody,” she said, noting that the procedure under general anesthesia did not hurt.

Two days after the transplant, Gross received an anonymous letter from his donor. Because of National Marrow Donor Program/Be The Match privacy regulations, donors and recipients aren’t allowed to know each other for a year nationally, and two years internationally.

In the letter, the donor told Gross that helping him was a “great pleasure (that came) from my heart.

I am sending you a lot of positive thoughts, feelings and vibrations full of hope.”

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Anonymous letter Ron Gross received after the bone marrow transplant. Later he learned that the letter was from Karolina Wierciak of Poland.

Gross, who spent more than three months either in Stanford Hospital or nearby as doctors closely monitored his progress, was touched by the initial letter and others that followed.

“She really cares,” Gross said. He now says he feels as good as he ever has.

Dr. Linda Burns, vice president and medical director of health services research for the National Marrow Donor Program/Be The Match, says thousands of people who’ve received transplants are doing well.

According to Be The Match records, 80,000 transplants have been performed since 1987. More than 470,000 new potential donors signed up in 2016. More than 75 percent of the time, donations are made in a nonsurgical, outpatient procedure similar to donating platelets or plasma.

Two years to the day after the 2014 transplant, Gross and Wierciak talked on the phone and got to know each other.

“We are so connected, when I telephoned her I immediately received a busy signal,” he said. “I disconnected and my phone started ringing. It was my donor. We were excited, sharing our feeling and experiences. … We discussed the things we both treasure the most, our families and our love for the sea.”

They decided that Gross would first visit Wierciak in Poland. In May he went for a few days without his wife Eva, who suffers from both heart and back issues. He stayed in an apartment close to his donor’s.

“You can’t imagine how I felt when I saw him,” Wierciak said. “I am not married and to think I’m part of somebody and helped with survival — it is unbelievable feeling.”

A reporter in Poland, Anna Folman, learned through friends of Wierciak that Gross had traveled to meet her. She wrote a front-page story on their journey.

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The Polish newsppaer GLOS did a story on the pair in May. Glos

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The Polish newsppaer GLOS did a story on the pair in May. Glos

“It was very emotional,” Folman said. “They were like father and daughter.”

Gross looks forward to the day Wierciak can visit him and his family in Las Vegas.

“She is my hero,” he said. “She will always be part of me.”

If you would like to register to potentially save a life, visit join.bethematch.org/WMDD2017.

Contact Paul Harasim at pharasim@reviewjournal.com or 702-387-5273. Follow @paulharasim on Twitter.

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